Our Adoption Story

The big update:

SHE’S HERE!!!

Our daughter.  I don’t think I’ll ever get tired of saying that.  Our daughter.

Oh my goodness.  I can’t believe she’s ours.

Maia Sofia Grace Butler was born June 19th, 2013 at 11:52 pm.  6 lbs, 14 oz.  21 & 1/4 in. long.

She was in our arms within her first half hour of life.  God is so sweet to us.

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For you who’re interested in our adoption journey, here’s a list of posts I’ve compiled, starting with when we first matched with our birth mom.  The match occurred just shy of a year and a half into our adoption process.

Her actual birth, our time in the hospital with her and birth mom, etc.  Such a sweet, full-of-God time.

Big Adoption News (And the Courage of Re-learning to Live Like A Child)

The Story (So Far) on our Soon-Coming Baby Girl!

On the Day We Meet Our Birth Mom

An Update On Our Meeting With Our Birth Mom (5 Minute Friday)

Visit #2 With Our Birth Mom (And an Interesting Hotel Experience)

Her NAME!  And a Couple Other Amazing Things

Adoption Prayer Needs, News, and a Question for You

How Adopting Is Like Falling (5 Minute Friday)

Answers to Your Questions, and What’s Happening as We Wait

It’s Really Happening!!! (Thoughts on the Night Before We Leave to Go Get Our Girl)

Maia’s Birth Week: Part 1 (A.K.A. Oh My Goodness, This Is Really Happening!)

Maia’s Birth Week: Part 2

Maia’s Birth Week: Part 3 (In Which She Makes Her Grand Entry!)

Maia’s Here!! (Some Updates and Some Cuteness)

Sweet To Be HOME

In Honor of Maia’s Adoption Finalization – The Slideshow

The Story Behind the Story

A Lifelong Desire

Since I was a little girl, I’d wanted to adopt.  Stan and I began talking about adoption when we were engaged.  We’d always known it was something we’d do. Something we felt called to.

We viewed adoption as a way our hearts could respond to the extravagance of the Gospel.  As Christians, we’ve been adopted into the family of God.  Redeemed.  Unconditionally embraced and adored by our Father.  Adoption mirrors beautifully, albeit imperfectly, how Jesus has loved us.

Our Adoption Journey

In January of 2012 we spent 3 weeks fasting (Daniel-style) and praying, intentionally asking the Lord for clear leadership regarding the timing of embarking on our adoption journey.  After those 3 weeks, we both felt a green light from Him, so we stepped out in faith.

We both felt like domestic adoption was the route God wanted us to take for this first go-around.

We had a mere few hundred dollars set aside, with which we opened up our adoption account.

Like I said – faith.  

We trusted God to bring in the money we’d need – nearly $20,000.  (We worked with 2 small, local, Christian agencies.)

Long story short?  We worked hard, and God met us in our faith.  Over the course of 2012, He brought in over $17,000.  We sold t-shirts, had a massive garage sale and an even more massive dinner/auction event.  People spontaneously gave us gifts toward our adoption fund: $20 here, $300 there, $1,000… and even more.

Our friends, family, and church family were incredibly supportive and encouraging.  We were blown away and undone by their desire to partner with us – financially, in prayer, and in serving at our fundraising events.

And guys?  God is faithful.  Adoption is so close to His heart, and He met our faith-steps with miraculous provision.  Over, and over, and over again.

And then?

We waited.  And waited.  (Insert ticking clock sound here.)

We worked with 2 small-ish, local agencies.  We decided that even if our adoption took longer than most, we trust our agencies.  We feel like they’re ethical.  They provide excellent services, counsel, and care for birth moms.  That was important to us.

What was the waiting like?  Some days harder than others.  We were not chosen so many times, I lost track.

But God steadied our hearts.  He sustained us while we waited.

And honestly, my life was so fulfilling in that season, that I found myself more and more content in the waiting.

We knew God would bring our new baby in His perfect time.  Cliche?  Sure sounds that way.  But in the depths of my heart, I couldn’t mean it more.  We deeply trusted Him.  Trusted that His heart and plans for our family were good.  Worth waiting for.

And they were.  So much more worth the wait than we ever could have imagined.

Here are some posts I wrote during our waiting season:

Asking for Prayer [My Times Are In Your Hands]

The Courage of Not Burying Hope in a Dresser Drawer

 

 

4 Responses to Our Adoption Story

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  3. Larissa says:

    I love your heart for following God and for adopting! I am adopted and I have no doubt that God was in every detail!

    • danalynnb says:

      Hi Larissa! How beautiful – I love that you were adopted, and hearing you say you see God in every detail – just stunning. He is so good, isn’t He? I love hearing from adoptees who see His pursuit of their hearts woven into the details of their stories. Your comment blesses my heart so much. Thank you! <3

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